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The 24/7 blog that we've called Resources is intended to be a multifaceted exploration of the Christian life. It is a place where we expand the conversation about what God is doing in our lives and in our community, and further reflect on what it looks like to live a life of full devotion to Christ, 24/7. This post is from an online forum called Ask Men, a secular dating and sex resource and explores the longterm dynamics of sex during a dating relationship.
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"It’s a question on many men’s minds as they sit in a candlelit restaurant on a first date: Will I get laid tonight? Or will she make me wait?
"Of course, plenty of men are thinking about more important issues, like whether their date might be good wife material, but suffice it to say, men like sex, so wondering about the probability of a post-dessert romp is natural.
"Well, the news is good and bad. Mark Regnerus, associate professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin and author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying (Oxford, 2011), knows firsthand. His research project, which includes a wealth of survey data on sexuality, found that a whopping 20% of young American men have sex on a first date. Yup, that’s one in five.
"But before you give a bunch of high fives to your brothers with “A” games or mourn over your inferior track record, here’s the other news. According to Regnerus, “Statistically, the 20% are less well-educated, consider themselves a bit more attractive and are slightly more depressed than the average 18-23-year-old in the study.”
